Yeah, Your Pretty But... What Do You Really Look Like?

My disclaimer for this entry is: I'm all for a high self-esteem, so whatever it takes for you to look good, I support it. Like TLC expressed in Unpretty.

You can buy your hair if it wont grow
You can fix your nose if he says so
You can buy all the make-up that mac can make
But if you cant look inside you
Find out who am i, too
Be in a position to make me feel so damn unpretty.

In today's society, I'm noticing that more women are concealing their true beauty with artificial imported products, especially my African descent queens. Instead of admiring naturally beautiful women, they're choosing to follow a video vixens footsteps. Typical vixens are basked in flawlessly done Mac Makeup, Grade A 'Yaki' (weave), and other tweaks are among the process of creating the look of the "perfect woman" or every man's "dream girl. But creating that look is not only temporary but it takes a lot of time, it requires the help of a professional stylist and make-up artist. If a woman can accomplish the look of a video vixen on her own then I applaud that. But, this shouldn't be an every day look. Maybe on a night out with your girls, you want to look like you just stepped off a runway. But is that process really necessary for your 8 a.m. class? Seriously, who are you trying to impress that bad? And what bothers me the most is the fact that these females are the ones who call themselves the "baddest", the most conceited of the bunch.

I don't know if they've gotten the memo but men love a naturally beautiful woman. One who they can run their fingers through their hair and not having to worry about his finger nail getting caught into your glued in tracks. Or one who they cuddle with and not have to worry about your eyeshadow or concealer getting onto his shirt. Long hair does not equal beauty. Concealer does not equal flawless skin. Instead purchasing that girl's hair from New Delhi, why not try a new look with your natural hair? Get a new cut, add some color, allow your hair to BREATHE and it will grow! And please, please, stop applying gel to your hairline to smooth down your naturally curly hair so it will look like your Yaki. In a few years your hairline will look like this. Sorry Naomi but that's unacceptable. And instead of applying all that concealer that's clogging your pores, and most likely isn't the right hue of your skin, invest in Proactive. Don't hide your flaws, work on improving them! When you find the man of the dreams, he might love you for who you are but will you love yourself? Your going to be waking up to him every morning, flaws and all, you should feel the most beautiful in the morning, I know I do.

Ladies, love your true self. We come in different shapes, sizes, skin tones, hair textures but our commonality is we all have flaws. Don't let any outside forces depict what you should look like, be who you want to be but think long-term.

We either fucked, had sex, or made love

All my life I've been the bragger type. One of those guys who take pride in their sex work like I really believe I'm the best if not top 10 in the us, top 20 in the world lol. Its like no matter how good that pussy is, I just wanna do my thing till I feel that I definitely put in enough work to go down as one of the best shes ever had or well.... maybe depending on the girl and only when I think its necessary lol. I say that because some girls I feel like they're not worth my time or effort, let me explain. Over the years my confidence keeps growing after every sex partner I have, and I feel like I'm so good to the point where I know the difference between a girl I fuck, have sex with, or make love to. The time, and effort level differs because there's a big difference in all 3, some girls I like fucking others we have good sex and others we make love. When you're in the "fuck" category I think its just whatever, a nut, a quickie, maybe I called you because I was bored and instead of beating my meat I rather you do it with your vagina lol is that simple so if I nut in 5 minutes Heyyy Sorry but I got mines, so if you're a "fuck" please don't expect me to put in work I'm sorry I'm in a rush and if you tell me it was weak guess what I DONT CARE seriously I dont. Other girls we have sex, I think when we have sex is more of a mutual agreement to satisfy each others. We take the time out, we will make it the best we can, you provide me with your best game and so will I, is like a friendly competition you make sure I get mines and I will make sure you do as well. And then there is the " making love" category doesn't necessarily mean that it has to be better than sex but I think it always beats the "fuck" due to those emotions that actually make it love. Its definitely more emotions attached to it, so I guess the intensity and excitement level evens it out so maybe it wont be as long as the sex but def more than the fuck. But again you can be a good fuck, an even better sex, and a great love or the other way around. But trust I know in what category you fall under before I put my dick in you so please ladies you have to understand exactly in which category you fall under before you give me that pussy.